Pop singer Hadiqa Kiani recently posted a series of photos with her 13-year-old son Naad-E-Ali and all some people could see that the photos were missing a man.
Hadiqa shared that she received many ‘proposals‘ on Instagram from men who expressed their desire to marry her while acknowledging that she has a son. Now it’s not obvious whether her ‘suitors’ are saying they wish to marry her for the sake of her son or despite her having a son, but Hadiqa says she’s had enough of her child being used as an excuse to initiate talk about the need for her marriage.
In a story on Instagram, she bashed her ‘suitors’: “The notion that the single mother is a victim needing your pity or love is beyond me. The fact that men like this think that I, or any woman, is desperate for marriage because she has a child is disgusting. Having a child is not a disability. It’s an honour and privilege.”
“Stop using the child of a woman as a way to romance her or as a way to force her into a relationship because this society makes it seem like single mothers aren’t capable of raising their children on their own.”
She talked about her own experience of facing societal pressures when she adopted her child:
“When I chose to adopt, I was told by many that it would ruin my chances of remarrying. I know other women who have been harassed by family members and people in our society. Being told that they must find a father for their kids. And many men are amazing and kind and loving but there are evil men who take advantage of a single mother’s children. The same relatives who tell you to remarry never seem to mention those men. I say all of this to say: Respect the single mother’s capabilities as a parent.”
She also had a message for women: “It is your job to encourage and uplift your fellow women, not judge her or force her into a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.”